Taken from Preparing Him for the Other Woman, A Mother’s Guide to Raising Her son to Love a Wife and Lead a Family, by Sheri Rose Shepherd.
Teach Him to Find a Good Wife
In the Bible we see that God used parents to help find good wives for their sons. Marriage was God’s idea, not man’s. It is a supernatural union. Aside from your sons decision to follow God, the most important choice your son will make is which young lady will take that long walk down the aisle.
Talk often to your son about the kind of woman who would be best for him. Seek the Lord together in prayer, emphasizing that a marriage needs to have God as the key ingredient. Whether you are married or a single mom, try to treat men with honor and respect before your son. The way you treat your son and the way you treat men in from of him will have a big impact on the kind of woman he looks for.
A Mother in Action:
Ages Toddler to Teen
Point out to him women who are examples of both good and bad wives.
1. Pray for your son’s wife with him. By praying for her in front of him and talking to him about the qualities to look for in a godly wife, you are cementing a prosperous future for your son. Remind him that choosing a wife is the most important decision he will ever make, and encourage him to pray for his wife now. He may not be able now to grasp the idea of being a husband, but you are planting seeds that will grow later in his life.
2. Have him journal. When he is eighteen or nineteen, buy him a journal for his future wife. Write a simple prayer in the journal before you give it to him, then encourage him to begin writing prayers and letters to his bride. This will teach him about expressing love through words.
3. Stay tuned in to your son. If you remain keyed in to his thoughts and emotions, he will in turn remain open to your input. He needs to see the benefits of a woman who truly loves him and God.
4. Take note of your son’s growing attraction to girls. When he starts noticing girls, encourage him to start thinking about the kind of woman he wants to marry.
Marriage is challenging enough with the right person, but it can become like a lifelong prison sentence with the wrong person. Use your God-given influence to help him choose a good wife so he can have the good life and walk in favor with God.
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